Have you ever felt empty? Have you ever felt alone in a crowded room? Do you have a full life, but you feel like you’re missing something? We’ve all been there! It’s a part of life! The important thing is, that you realized it, and now you’re on the path to doing something about it!
In this article, I will help you do just that! I will give you tips on how to be a whole person and share with you lessons that I have learned along the way and that I continue to learn. Life is a journey! We are forever learning lessons. We are forever growing as an individual. What makes the difference is, if you choose to allow that positive change to happen or if you choose to ignore it.
Start from the inside/out and allow the positive change to happen! Choose to be whole!
Know That You Are Enough
Being a whole person starts on the inside. Knowing that you are enough is a big first step in this process. Feeling comfortable and confident with who you are is an amazing gift that not everyone receives. Try not to compare yourself to others. Just know that all of your differences is what makes you special. It’s what makes you unique! It’s what makes you, YOU!
When you start to feel down or discouraged, when you start to let other people’s opinions affect you, when you start to question yourself, how about, instead of pointing out everything YOU think is a flaw, look in the mirror and say “I am enough! I am strong! I am brave! I am beautiful! I am whole!”
None of us have “flaws”. None of us have “mistakes”, we only have differences! No two people are alike! Even twins have their own uniqueness! We all have our own personalities, body types, hair styles, skin color. All of that is what makes us beautiful! Isn’t that freeing when you think about it that way?
Be kind to yourself. Love yourself, and everything about you, and remember, YOU ARE ENOUGH!
It’s OK To Be Happy
This may seem like a very straightforward and simple topic, but it’s really not. If you take a moment and honestly, think about your life, are you really, truly happy? Are you living your best life? Are you in the career you always dreamed of? Are you living the life that makes you happy or are you living a life that makes someone else happy?
If you answered no to any of those questions, then I can pretty confidently say, you are not fully happy. Think about when you were a kid and you had all of these dreams and aspirations. Have you fulfilled any of those? As an adult, we tend to get caught up in the seriousness of life, but what if we looked at life through the eyes of a child? That innocence. That excitement. That curiosity. That eagerness to learn more!
Think back on that, and know that, it’s OK to be happy! It’s OK to go back to those dreams and aspirations, that you had or that you have, and do what makes you happy! When you are happy, you feel whole. You feel complete. You feel fulfilled. You have peace.
You don’t have to change your life drastically to fulfill this step, but just be mindful in everything that you do, and ask yourself, am I truly happy? Does this truly make me happy? If the answer is, YES, then go for it, because it’s OK to be happy!
Take Care Of Yourself First
I already know what you’re thinking! How can I take care of myself first when I have all of these responsibilities? Believe me! I totally understand! This step is not the easiest, but it’s the most important! We have to constantly remind ourselves to take care of our self first!
It is so important to set time aside every day to just do something for you! It can be 10 minutes or an hour, doing something as simple as sitting outside with a cup of coffee or getting a massage. It doesn’t have to be anything big, but it should be something!
Whatever you choose to do, make sure it helps you clear your mind, gives you peace and helps you feel refreshed! Whatever you choose to do, make sure it helps you feel rejuvenated and energized, so you feel ready to take on the world!
Focus on taking care of you and never feel guilty about it! It’s the best thing you can do for yourself! When you take care of yourself first, you’re able to give more of yourself to others. You will feel like a weight has been lifted! You won’t feel so boggled down and stressed! You will be happier and so will everyone else around you!
This is the number one step to being a whole person!
You’re probably asking yourself right now, what does this have to do with being a whole person? It actually has A LOT to do with it! I’m going to first share with you what independence means… Independence means free from outside control, not depending on another’s authority, not depending on another for livelihood or substance.
I’ll let you think about that for a little bit…
Being independent and being a whole person means, not looking to anyone else for your happiness, not looking to anyone else to sustain you, not looking to anyone else to love you, validate you, believe in you or complete you. Being independent and being a whole person means, you are happy with you and no matter what anyone else says or does, you will be OK.
Being the person you were meant to be, stepping out of someone else’s shadow and walking in your own light. Living in your truth. Walking the path you were meant to walk. These are just some examples of living an independent life!
When you reach this point, you know you have mastered the art of being whole!
Be Whole! Be Happy! Just Be You!
How are you feeling? I hope after reading this article, you are feeling encouraged and motivated to live your best life and to be the best version of you!
It’s OK to not be perfect! It’s OK to have those moments where you’re just human, but try to stay mindful and aware and don’t let yourself get too far off track!
Positive change is like the stages of a butterfly, the first stage doesn’t start off too pretty, but with hard work, dedication, and patience, the end result is gorgeous!
So, stand in there! Don’t give up! You will soon be turning into the beautiful, whole person you are meant to be! Be whole! Be happy, but most importantly, JUST BE YOU!